I don’t know if I am speaking for all parents here, but from what I’ve gathered from the other Mom-friends/family I have, it seems that comparing children (behavior, milestones, achievements, etc) is a regular behavior.
It started young, with excited proclamations that the babies were rolling over. Then crawling. Perhaps teething. Now I’m in the walking stage. (I can also foresee a “talking” phase, potty training, the list goes on…)
And honestly, it legit bums me out that Vivien is creeping closer and closer to her first birthday, and hasn’t shown any interest in walking (unassisted) yet. I try not to compare, but no one wants their child to be passed up, or “left behind.” She’s been pulling up on things since she turned 8 months. She’s been walking with her push walker since she was 9 months old. I’ve waited for her to get past that point, but she’s just not there yet.
As a Mommy, I can’t help but wonder if maybe I can get better, or if I am not helping her hit her next milestone early. Then I stop, and research, and see that Vivien is perfectly in the range of normal 11 month old behaviors. But then the comparison rears its ugly face, and I find myself in the same circle of crazy, and it sucks. However, I have a happy, carefree kiddo who loves crawling her way into mischief, and makes me smile all day long.
At least we’ve got the “cute contest” in the bag.
Do you find yourself comparing anything?
(I must admit, up until now, Vivien was always the “winner” hahaha. J/k!)